Showing Up

I’m going to share with you something I’ve learned in my 37 plus years on this earth. Something that I didn’t fully comprehend until recently.

You need to show up. Show up for the people you love and care about. Show up in big ways, but also small ways.

I feel ashamed of how I acted in this regard in my 20s. I thought people didn’t care of I was there or not. I was depressed and tired, though not nearly as much as I have been in the past 2 years.

It may be an inconvenience for you to make the time and effort. The person will probably say oh it’s alright, I understand. Though if that person is anything like me they feel a little sad that you didn’t show up for them.

Showing up doesn’t mean you have to go to every single event or even say yes to every invite, but it is making a concerted effort to be a part of someone’s life. Invite them to coffee/ tea the following week if you cannot make it to their cookie party because your child cannot sleep without you. It’s texting your friend. It’s texting your mother-in-law. It’s a hand written note to you Best friend (which I need to do! And soon). It’s sending Christmas cards. It’s inviting people to Thanksgiving dinner.

Showing up is hard. Especially if you have anxiety. Self doubt is a bitch. Comparing your life to others is self defeating. Show up without any expectations that people will show up for you. Though in my experience when you show up, others show up for you.

Also show up for yourself. Do things that fill your cup or bucket or whatever you like. For me showing up for myself is joining hike it baby and making new friends in Bend while exploring the beauty of the outdoors.


F-you Instagram

For almost a week I’ve been having trouble posting on Instagram. All I want is to post photos of my cat and of my messy box laden house. But no. This is all I get.

I decided I’ll just post the photos here. Hahaha Instagram you have not thwarted me.

And obligatory moving photos

I guess enough procrastination. Time to tackle the kitchen with a toddler. This is going to take forever!


Life’s Little Lists

Once upon a time I had a blog called Life’s Little Lists which evolved into what we have now in Polka Dots and Pastries.  While I from time to time think about deleting this and starting fresh with a new blog.  Though that would not really work for my life since I use this blog to keep track of our favorite recipes.  A place where I can always find what I want to eat.  So, for now, PD&P will stick around.  That is a long way of saying that I still love lists and here is my list for today!

  1. Reading is my favorite. I’m sure I’ve done all of these.
  2. Tracy loves lists too!
  3. I’ve been obsessively watching back seasons of Hell’s Kitchen.  I’m on Season 7!
  4. I’m sad season 5 is the last season of Fixer Upper.
  5. Even though my husband hates her style I’m in love with most of her designs.
  6. I’ve recently been turned onto Amber Interiors and love her style too.
  7. I listen to MFM on my way to and from work.  Love these ladies!
  8. I really want this bathing suit bottom and top.  I’m not liking the price.
  9. I think our family needs these shirts: Me, Alex, and Bebe.
  10. I want all these shirts from the Bee & the Fox: California, Mamasita, and Mama Tired.
  11. And Bebe and I need these shirts from Love Bubby: Bebe and me.